I completely forgot about this blog – now reading it through I can see all the frustration unravel over time, but in a weird way I can also see how my beliefs were slowly building, and I was laying the ground work.
I guess I went from one extreme to another.
I only discovered Tony Robins in the last year (I know where have I been). And he said the title of this post. ‘Our biggest problem in life is thinking we shouldn’t have problems’. Life is not a holiday park, so as soon as you accept there will always be problems and challenges, you will feel better. It is in a way one of the major terms and conditions which come with living, and the one you need to come to terms with. Guarantee when you do, you will be that bit more content.
The best thing you can do in life to help, is equip yourself, especially when you are doing well/ flying in heels. Here are a couple of things I have taken on over the last 2 years which may be useful:
Surround yourself with the people you want to be like. If you want to be a good cook, make friends with cooks. If you want to be smart, surround yourself with people who are always studying. An entrepreneur, then you need to have friends in your life who are doing this also and successfully. The same applies to personal traits, if you want to be happy, find happy people and go where they go. Creative, well google 20 places for creative inspiration in your city, and see what comes up.
Habbit Tracker: I am new at this, but I have a habit tracker which I need to get better at completing. I have listed items/ activities/ actions I want to monitor each day to help make them more natural to me. Mine include things like pray, 30 mins exercise, drink coconut water. But some people have meditation, or call a family member, or go for a walk. I also have 15 minutes hard core tidy up- slightly neglected.
Amazing template here
Outlets for interests: So I recently joined the Meet Up bandwagon. But through that I have met some amazing people I would never have done otherwise. I am also getting into skill share and lucky enough to have Google Campus London near by which is great for free talks. This way I am helping my interests and passions grow. You can do this online too, via a blog, or various Instagram accounts for different interests. Completely up to you. Have a side thing. Need inspiration, check out skill share or eventbrite, and flick through until something grabs you.
Something to look forward to: Each month, or every two months try and have something to look forward to. This could be a holiday, an event, something you will buy yourself. A catch up with a friend. Decide what it is before and if there are any steps you need to take before getting it.
Ask yourself, what good have I done today, this week, this month: If you can, I believe you should give back.
It can be just buying someone a cup of tea who is homeless, to volunteering at a soup kitchen. I am toying with idea of being a mentor for youth offenders. Whatever it is, ry and bring an element of consistency to it. So I will visit the soup kitchen for half a day on a sunday every 6 weeks.
All of this at once, I know sounds like a lot, and it is but, some times a few small steps can help change perspective. Take it slowly, its part trial and error. The important thing is to keep equipping yourself.
In some ways I think this is a note to myself in the future or when I next get stuck.